THE STORY OF KISA GOTAMI

 




 The story of kisa gotami is one of the most popular in Buddhism. kisa gotami was the wife of  renowned wealthy man called Savatthi. After losing her child, she became unrealistic and completely lost her senses and couldn't handle pain of child loss. she asked for help that anyhow life could be bring back. An old man told him to visit buddha. buddha told her that he could bring the child back to life if she could find white mustard seeds from a family where no one had died. She desperately went from house to house, but to her disappointment, she could not find a house that had not suffered the death of a family member. 
realization: there is no house free from morality and  acceptance of truth

 welcome  readers, After gap of a year I pushed my self to pen down few topics and ideas worth considering.
last few year were very challenging  for all of us and personally  for me  a double trouble.
Therefore, beginning this year with hope, courage and compassion. writing down a learning for us all who have lost dear ones during this pandemic.

Bringing you to the words of kisa Gotami from Gotami sutta: 
 
"The living are few, but the dead are many"

I've gotten past the killing of [my] sons,
have made that the end
to [my search for] men.
I don't grieve,
I don't weep....
It's everywhere destroyed — delight.
The mass of darkness is shattered.
Having defeated the army of death,
free of fermentations I dwell.
Happy indeed is the mother Happy indeed is the father Happy indeed is the wife Who is a lord so glorious
                       The lesson of overcoming and accepting grief taught by Buddha the globe trotter will help us in a way that how we accept the dead end or turning points in our life.

Grief is the acute pain that accompanies loss. Because it is a reflection of what we love, it can feel all-encompassing. Grief is not limited to the loss of people, but when it follows the loss of a loved one, it may be compounded by feelings of guilt and confusion, especially if the relationship was a difficult one.
Many people expect to experience denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, in that order, due to the continuing influence of On Death and Dying, the 1969 book by psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross.

Though we cannot do much but instead our little efforts can provide support and strength to griever, we  can help them by reflecting on their chronic thoughts, genuine moral support and empathy and lastly, psychological aid if grieving lasts longer than normal duration.



         

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